Why I Wrote a 30 before 30.
If you follow me on social media, you’ll have seen that I’ve been working towards completing a 30 before 30 bucket list. But why?
Bucket lists are for retired people right?
This may be true BUT I lost someone very close to me when I was just 18 and they were only 49 themselves. I’m now 28 and if I only live to 49 too … I’m more than half way through my life. Now I know that’s quite morbid, but it really is the kick up the arse I need to make sure I make the most of my life.
Right Andi, I get it but why do you need a 30 before 30 if you already think like that?
Because I’m a bit of a paradox… I want to live life to the fullest but I’m actually terrified of most of it! You see I have Generalised Anxiety Disorder and Social Phobia … so even though I might really want to do something half the time I talk myself out of it - which isn’t the best when you want to get the most out of life.
Writing down what I want to achieve has given me some goals and for a perfectionist like me, it forces me to get out of my own head and just do the stuff!
Don’t get me wrong, I’m probably still really anxious when I get there, or constantly worrying about whether I've said the right thing or done the right thing. The main thing though … I’m there, I’m doing the stuff and for me that’s why a 30 before 30 was so important.
Now I’m not saying if you’ve got the conditions I have that a 30 before 30 is the answer to your problems, but it’s definitely helped me. Furthermore, if you’re not scared of human interaction that doesn’t mean you can’t write a list. Doesn’t even need to be 30 before 30, could just be a list of stuff you want to get done this year or before you’re 50 or even today.
I think what I’m trying to say is.. If you’d reached the half way point in your life, would it spur you on to do more?
Just to reiterate this isn’t trying to get you to think about your mortality or the fragility of life. I’m just saying - if there’s something you want to do, are you working towards getting it?
My 30 before 30 list has given me a real urge to get shit done off that list and it’s stuff that is sociable like going to London or a cooking class or something that’s just for me like writing a play. The point is, I’m doing stuff for me that normally would scare me or I’d talk myself out of because I don’t think I’m good enough.
The other thing is, I’m not treating this like a life or death decision, yes it’s giving me guidance but it’s not YOU MUST DO THIS LIST because that would actually induce anxiety! This is a fun list to help break me out of my shell.
I hope this mildly morbid blog hasn’t turned you off but in fact inspired you and if you’re interested in writing a list, like my 30 before 30 I’ve written my top tips here!
Have a great day!
Here's a picture of Goat Fell (a big ass hill on the Isle of Arran, Scotland), that my sister, friends and I climbed this year.
This was number one on my list and is dedicated to the person we lost!